Couples Counselling in Adelaide and online

Practical, even-handed support for your relationship — with a counsellor both of you can feel at ease with.

If you're the one looking into this, you're not alone — usually it's one person who reaches out first, while the other isn't so sure yet. And if the one who's hesitant happens to be your husband, that's okay and worth understanding rather than pushing against.

Some guys resist couples counselling for the same reasons they avoid counselling generally: they expect to be cast as the problem, talked over or asked to ‘open up’ in a way that just doesn't come naturally to them. Some even quietly worry they'll be outnumbered — that things might turn into a two-against-one pile on.

Sitting down with a male counsellor can take a lot of that edge off. It's often easier for a man to speak openly with someone he doesn't expect to be judged by, who understands where he's coming from, and who can help put what he's trying to say into words when he's struggling to find them. When he feels like he'll get a fair go, he stops bracing for an attack— and he can relax a bit and start taking part in the process.

To be clear, a male counsellor doesn't mean a counsellor who takes his side. My job is to understand both of you and work for the relationship. You'll each be heard, and neither of you will be cast as the ‘bad guy’.

How it works

In the room it's calm, practical and even-handed. We'll get clear on what's actually going on between you and what each of you needs — without blame games or taking sides. Part of that is making it safe enough for you both to say the things that usually stay unsaid: what's really going on underneath those same old arguments. And you won't only talk it through — you'll come away with practical skills and a few things to practise between sessions, so the change shows up in everyday life, not just in the room. Twelve years of experience sits behind my approach but it stays down-to-earth, warm and human, not clinical.

I work with all couples — whatever your relationship looks like.

If you've read this far, you're probably the one ready to take the first step. You can book an initial session for the two of you, or get in touch first if you'd like to talk it through on your own.